Our children seem to know just how to push our buttons.
When they’re pushed we can go from 0-100 in no time without thinking clearly. Leaving us to feel out of control and guilty.
Our buttons are emotional stress triggers that have been created over time from past memories, beliefs, experiences and traumas, often from our own childhood.
These buttons are indicators of where we need to heal and put in boundaries.
Some buttons are:
- bedtime
- mealtimes
- getting dressed
- a sick child
- mess
- loud noise
- screen time
- not listening
Our negative reactions have negative effects on both our children and ourselves. It can cause feelings of fear, guilt, health issues and especially impact our relationships.
By deactivating your triggers and managing your stress you go from reacting to responding. When you respond you are present and in control. You have the patience and clarity to support your child in the moment and this helps build lasting and loving relationships.
You are a conscious parent and by you being in control of your emotions you are teaching your child to mange and regulate theirs. Our children learn through what they see and experience and they are learning how to be adults from us.
“A sign of great parenting is not the child’s behaviour, the sign of truly great parenting is the parents behaviour.”
For me, this is so true. My children’s behaviour changed when I started to work on my own emotional stress triggers.
My eldest was 4 years old when he experienced a significant trauma and was also diagnosed with sensory processing disorder and anxiety. I felt like the wheels were falling off of my life and I spiralled into a deep depression. After a near nervous breakdown I picked myself up and got help. That help changed my life. By healing my emotional stress traumas I actually helped my children and formed amazing relationships with them.
How my life and relationships changed inspired me after some years to become a certified life coach and combined with my experience as a qualified early childhood practitioner and mother of two boys I have created a program to help other parents and families called Less Stress Parenting. It is a 3 month program where you learn how to deactivate your emotional stress triggers, manage stress and get proven, helpful skills to get your children to listen and co operate.
These buttons are indicators of where we need to heal and put in boundaries.
Some buttons are:
- bedtime
- mealtimes
- getting dressed
- a sick child
- mess
- loud noise
- screen time
- not listening
Our negative reactions have negative effects on both our children and ourselves. It can cause feelings of fear, guilt, health issues and especially impact our relationships.
By deactivating your triggers and managing your stress you go from reacting to responding. When you respond you are present and in control. You have the patience and clarity to support your child in the moment and this helps build lasting and loving relationships.
You are a conscious parent and by you being in control of your emotions you are teaching your child to mange and regulate theirs. Our children learn through what they see and experience and they are learning how to be adults from us.
“A sign of great parenting is not the child’s behaviour, the sign of truly great parenting is the parents behaviour.”
For me, this is so true. My children’s behaviour changed when I started to work on my own emotional stress triggers.
My eldest was 4 years old when he experienced a significant trauma and was also diagnosed with sensory processing disorder and anxiety. I felt like the wheels were falling off of my life and I spiralled into a deep depression. After a near nervous breakdown I picked myself up and got help. That help changed my life. By healing my emotional stress traumas I actually helped my children and formed amazing relationships with them.
How my life and relationships changed inspired me after some years to become a certified life coach and combined with my experience as a qualified early childhood practitioner and mother of two boys I have created a program to help other parents and families called Less Stress Parenting. It is a 3 month program where you learn how to deactivate your emotional stress triggers, manage stress and get proven, helpful skills to get your children to listen and co operate.
